Muslim therapist gives the Islamic conditions for beating one’s wife and how to


A footage of Khaled Al-Saqaby has been released via the Washington DC-based Middle East Media Research Institute. In it, he urges men not to physically abuse their wives but pursue three courses of action should they need ‘discipline’ – first talk to them, then ‘forsake them in bed’ and finally beat them.

He said wives undoubtedly cause problems because many want to live a life of equality with their husbands, which is a very grave problem. His words: “I am aware that this issue is a thorny one which contains many hazards, but Allah willing we will cross this bridge safely.

I believe the problem arises when husbands do not understand how to deal with disobedience. Some women disobey their husbands and make mistakes with them, and their husbands think this is due to inadequate treatment [of disobedience].

The first step is to remind her of your rights and of her duties according to Allah. Then comes the second step – forsaking her in bed. Here some husbands make mistakes which might exacerbate the problem. As a woman once told me, this is the most ingenious way to discipline a wife.

If the husband leaves the room it is easier for her than if he remains but turns his back to her or if he sleeps on the floor or vice versa. Women have to understand the aim is to discipline. The necessary Islamic conditions for beating must be met.

The beating should not be performed with a rod, nor should it be a headband, or a sharp object which, I am sad to say, some husbands use. It should be done with something like the sewak tooth-cleaning twig or with a handkerchief, because the goal is to merely make the wife feel that she was wrong in the way she treated her husband.”…. God bless ds man for ds great eye opener…. 

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