The AVERAGE Igbo Man is abusive, uncouth and has no respect for women — Victor Ibeh


The AVERAGE Igbo Man is abusive, uncouth and has

no respect for women. I have watched them display

perennial insanity over time.

Sometime I wonder if it is the high amount

they pay for Bride Price that makes them think,

women are inanimate chattels to be owned, seen but

not heard.

For the sake of clarity. I am not referring to every

Igbo man.

Very rude Igbo Men that won’t hesitate to abuse a

woman with her sex organs.

Last year I was coming back from Joy Bewaji’s

‪#‎Conversation‬ in Ibadan; at Oshodi, I boarded a bus

with my Sister Jacqueline Ibeh, to Mile 2.

The angry looking Igbo conductor was just throwing

tantrum as if, he was doing a forced labour. I paid for

our fare and my sister asked him politely after

sometime for our balance.

The man flared up and began to abuse her. Just like


“Ashewo” ‘you are just chasing men upandan’ I

possibly can’t type out all the abusive words he used

for her, just for asking for balance.

My sister responded to him in a commensurate

measure. I had to plead with her to ignore his

frustrated arse.

Wetin dey pepper the man for body?

Can’t he look at people and mind his business.

He was just angry that one fine girl was with me.

Did my sister prevent him from having a woman in

his life?

‘I will beat you up’ ‘ashewo’ ‘see dem’ from one man

to another. He was saying all these in Igbo language.

Am sure you know how these words sound in Igbo


Well, we got to our junction and alighted. Good


Yesterday, I was on my way from Illupeju to Ikeja,

after attending Neco briefing for Supervisors. Our

vehicle developed a mild fault. Nigerians in their

usual manner were shouting at the driver. The man

had no choice than to halt and hand them over to

another Driver. I was just sitting jejely on one corner,

watching the drama. The same set of people that

alighted, suddenly changed their minds when

another vehicle wasn’t forthcoming. They asked the

driver to drive gently to the next stop.

A certain lady climbed back into the vehicle and sat in a

particular position, so the young man who sat there

prior to that stop sat close to her and was grumbling

that she had taken his position. I watched them in

silence. By right, since they had all alighted, with the

intent of boarding another vehicle, nobody had right

to a previous sitting position.

The guy told the Lady in a rude and entitled way, to

adjust. The lady made it clear that there was no place

to adjust to. Truly that was the case. The guy rebuked

her and asked her to shut-up. The lady politely asked

him why he was rebuking her. The next thing, the guy

uttered was: ‘Ozu’ ‘smelling thing’ I was like what the


Just like that?

It has turned into an issue of smells.


The lady responded with equal fury and the guy kept mute after threatening to beat her up.

Now, the funny part of this whole drama, is that the

conductor was abusive to everybody. That same guy

threatening a woman asked for his balance and the

conductor responded like this ‘God go punish you,’

‘idiot’ ‘na who owe you change’ the guy couldn’t

respond. He was busy making explanations to the

conductor. I just dey look the guy with corner eye.

You see, the reason he spoke to the girl in that manner

was because she is a woman and he feels that she is

inferior to him.

This is the mindset of an average Igbo man. They

need a special kind of reorientation before they can

start thinking and talking well.

Btw this two instances are just isolated. I have seen a

lot. Even on social media, you need to see how Igbo

Men abuse women for saying their minds on certain

life issues.

If you are such an Igbo Man, repent!

My name is Victor Ibeh and I am Igbo.

Copyright, Victor Ibeh 2016

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