The wife of Pastor Oyakhilome now runs a blog, pastoranita.org, where she motivates people. She wrote this Sunday: “A life absent of love or care can be hard to bear. Abandonment and neglect in a relationship or marriage would
be detrimental to anybody. The question is why did u hang on? People av different reasons for hanging on to an abusive relationship.
However, if u’re staying to keep d peace or trusting God for a change some day, when u discover d unbelievable truth, it’ll become obvious that u need to assess ur value and self-esteem. Tolerating abuse can rob u of ur identity and u can lose ur own personality in d process.
I had reached the point of exhaustion, but thank God for d courage to move on against all the odds. It is a great weight on ur shoulders to live a false life with false impressions, possibly to get the praise and applause o people. To love urself, u have to accept urself for who u are. Be happy to be u and let others accept u for who u are. I am not ashamed of saying I am going through a divorce and I av lived as a single mother for many years. I was never ashamed of it.
Recognize u av value and u deserve to be treated with respect. U must first respect urself to know when to walk away from people who make u miserable and stay with people who love, inspire and respect u. Feel beautiful without searching for peoples approval, appreciate urself. It is time to make something out of ur experience, financial loss, the end of ur job or end of a relationship, I might appear to have lost everything in one package but life goes on. I use this as an opportunity for growth, and self-discovery.
To be put down by ur parents or a spouse shouldn’t control ur future instead begin a life long venture of personal acceptance and self-love. It is not a sin to love urself, recognize u are God’s natural given brilliance. The moment u love urself, ur self-esteem will grow in leaps and bounds. Fall in love with urself and never stop working on d best u can be.”…. I’m filing for divorce today. I’m tired taking cowshit!!!…..